Elegance

How do you become elegant when you don't even know where to start? Is elegance an inbuilt trait that some are born with and others not? Or is it a learned trait that you acquire through study and observation. I want to become more elegant in all that I do. Dave would call it High Maintenance but me, I just know that at this point in my life I want it all.

If you could buy it, I would buy it right now. The only problem is I do not know what I am to buy. I have a friend of whom I consider to be extremely elegant. I fear that I will copy her and that is not what I want to do. I know that she was not born into elegance. It has been a learned thing for her and I was to guess I would assume she decided that she was only having the best and nothing else would suffice.

In my childhood, the more the better...It made you "richer" if you could have the most wool, or the most fabric. Yet in reality, the cupboards squashed with all types of foods, clothes overflowing out of cupboards and equipment for all the hobbies just meant that we grew up living in a house where nothing was put away...all was left out and nothing eventually was valued as it was always just there.

I am in a middle ground of this lifestyle. True, I have way too much stuff because I have purchased it over time and now I consider it wasteful to remove it from my house without using it. The truth is though, how much stuff do we actually use. Less than a third of all that we buy.

I find now that I want less, but what I do want I want to be beautiful and simply be and as a clutter author once quoted, "If it is worth keeping, then it is worth displaying beautifully, not haphazardly thrown in a cupboard for the one day when I may want to use it."

With my broken foot, I have got a little lazy. Each day is a struggle at the moment to just do the little things without all the rest, but I have got too lazy now. Clutter is raising it's ugly head again and this just exemplifies the mess I feel when I look at my house.

Dinner with my friend was beautiful. It was a simple meal prepared with love, yet displayed with love and attention to detail. No just slap it together on a plate for her. Each moment is a moment to treasure so details are important.

I was so lucky to see a photo of her put on face book that showed her morning face. Goodness me, it is nothing like the face you will see during the day or at the end of the evening. She works to make herself look good. I don't. If it doesn't happen first time, I am not that concerned and even used to wear it as a badge of honour that I am different so therefore do not need to try.

That is so wrong and the elegant person inside me has been screaming to be allowed to come out. I am ready to become that elegant person. I want every meal to be a 3 course gourmet meal and I want every occasion to be the absolute best it can be. I want my crafts to be beautiful not just done so they can be sold. I would rather not sell a craft if I see it as mass produced...that is no longer me. I want simplistic elegance with a touch of class. I want to beautify my home and myself for me. I do not care what others think. This is my time to just make all I have around me beautiful. Not just finished or nearly done, I want it all done - all beautiful - and all elegant.


This post was originally written on the 2nd May 2010 and today when I was continuing my process of decluttering, it fell out. It hadn't been filed which is extremely unusual for me...so I took this as a sign to look at it and take notice of the message. And yet again, an extremely important message and again, extremely relevant to me as I am today....thank you.